I never meant any harm: on the Duggars, vicarious exoneration, and judging abusers by their intentions
For the offenders, I think that intentions do matter. But the effects of their crimes are the same, regardless of the intention. Manslaughter results in a dead person just as much as murder 1. The victim’s suffering is not negated by anything that the offender can do. They may be able to make peace with themselves, but that offers no peace to their victims. In my profession, I have worked with both. The victim is by far, the one who always pays the bigger price. And I agree that detail often gets forgotten. I just don’t understand how.